Terrell Owens: Villain Or Victim? His Tumultuous Fall From Grace
Look! I’m a get right to it! Terrell Owens is not the most like-able guy in the world! In some circles, people just outright hate his guts! They hate everything he stands for. They think he’s arrogant, standoffish, rude and think he’s above everybody else. They can’t stand him! After all the negative stuff he did in San Fransisco, Dallas, and the Eagles, people don’t want to touch him with a ten foot pole. Sometimes when you are making millions of dollars, you forget who your real friends are and forget to remain humble. So now that he’s broke and has no money, people wouldn’t spit on him to put a fire out. And quite honestly, its sad to see Terrell Owens, a Hall Of Fame caliber wide receiver, in this position.
Over 40 news outlets went to see Tim Tebow, a backup quarterback, speak at a news conference. Here it is, Terrell Owens couldn’t get ONE team to come out and watch him practice, and only one major news outlet covered it. This is a man who is second to Jerry Rice in several major statistical categories, and this is how they treat him now. Its like he’s being blackballed by the NFL. And it’s sad to see. But alot of this he bought on himself.
But what I’m really writing about today is Terrell Owen’s appearance yesterday on the Dr. Phil show with three of the mothers of his children. I really didn’t understand why he chose, or why his advisors chose for him to go on Dr. Phil’s show, and be scrutinized and be placed under a microscope by millions of people regarding his personal life. I didn’t think it was a good move personally from a PR perspective, because how do you really tell your side of the story in 44 minutes where the viewers can objectively see your side of this situation? And Dr. Phil’s show is predominantly female oriented, and has a strong female base. Remember Dr. Phil comes from the Oprah Winfrey cloth, so did you think Terrell Owens was going to get any sympathy from the women on this show?
After the show, the feedback was even more people now felt like Terrell Owens was a deadbeat dad. So this media situation didn’t work out for the best for him. But what I would say is, it did give you a glimpse into the life of these superstar athletes and what they go through with the mothers of their children and vice-versa.
So from the start I have to say both sides were wrong in this situation in varying degrees. Terrell obviously for not being there for his kids, and the mothers of these children using child support payments as a basis of their relationships with Terrell. And I’m a start first with how I feel about the mothers.
This is what bothers me about women who have children with superstar athletes and try to use the children as “pawns” or as a glorified meal ticket. The reason I say that is because, if this was a regular, average guy they had met on the street and fell in love with and had a baby by him, would they still need 20,000 dollars a month to raise that child? I don’t think so. It’s ONLY because they know these guys are millionaires that now they are demanding 20,000 or 30,000 dollars a month in child support. It’s absurd. Ladies lets be very honest here. These women that were linked to Terrell Owens don’t need 20,000 dollars a month to adequately raise their child. There are average, everyday women out there that are doing just fine with going to school, having a job, and also having the father of that child working and earning a living too in order to help support that child, and their child is JUST FINE. Bills are being paid for, food is put on the table, they are involved in after school activities, doctor bills are paid for, and they as a family have NOWHERE near 20,000 dollars a month just set aside for one child. The problem is, out of that 20,000, yes they are taking care of the child, but these women are also using some of that money for their own financial gain as well. And it’s not suppose to be about that. The money is for the child. Not the woman going to get a new car, or getting her hair done every week, or a brand new purse. The money is not about keeping up YOUR lifestyle. You guys were never married. These women are no longer in a relationship with these star athletes. So they need to stop trying to live the life like those athletes. Remember ladies, you still have your own life to live. You should still get your own job and provide for yourself and not just be waiting around for this millionaire guy to send you a check every month. And watching Terrell Owens baby mother’s go at his neck yesterday on Dr. Phil about missing a 20,000 dollar a month payment really bothered me. NOT ONCE, did I hear any of these young ladies say, “okay, Terrell’s financial situation has changed, let me not take him to court, but try and work with him so he can still be in this child’s life and help provide”. These women were so angry because he stopped paying 20,000 dollars a month. They trying to count how many millions he making. Ladies, he’s NOT obligated to take care of YOU! His obligation is taking care of that child! Now I want to make sure I clarify and say that Terrell Owens was WRONG too! And I’m sorry, but I can’t feel sorry for a man that blew 80 million dollars and is broke now! And I’ll be the first to say it too, that YES, he is a deadbeat dad! It DISGUSTED me when he said “well I pay child support, why do I need to buy my kids gifts for Christmas?” That pissed me off. That showed me how malicious, callous and cold Terrell Owens was. I don’t care how much money he sent his kids. He’s a millionaire. The money was gonna be there. Its not about that. Its about being in his children’s lives more than anything. And what he did bothered me EVEN MORE than what the women did. Because I’m a man. A man who grew up without a father or having that father figure in my life. I know how profound that is as a young boy growing up not knowing his daddy. Or not having a father that wanted to be a part of his son’s life. And in my heart that’s unforgivable because these children didn’t ask to be born and come into this world because YOU made a mistake and didn’t use protection. No matter what Terrell’s financial situation was, he should have always been in these children’s lives from day one. Just seeing your child once a year is UNACCEPTABLE! I don’t care how busy you are! You only play football six months out of the year! What about the other six months?? You could still pay for your kids to fly in and out of different cities to come see you more than once a year. On off days, you can surprise your kids and fly in to pick them up after school and spend the day with them. Then fly right back out. You can’t say this doesn’t or can’t work, because I see superstar athletes do it all the time if they have to fly in and out on an off day to do a TV show, or do a paid appearance somewhere. Why can’t you do the same for your kids? So there’s no excuse. None. It really hurt my heart as a black man to see these black sisters tearing this man down on national TV like that. I really hope that Terrell and all of the mothers of his children utilize the services of Dr. Phil “AFTER THE SHOW”, AFTER there are no more cameras, or TV ratings to get, hopefully they receive the help they need to restore the foundation and bring their families closer together and not tear them apart. Don’t use Dr. Phil or his TV show as a “symbolic” gesture. Really get to the root of these problems with Dr. Phil, as a doctor, and clinical psychologist, to really help you with the healing process. Hope you make a true comeback T.O. -J.B.